To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJJmCWNgVuXxnIs9EDeadysH7DkB25wSIC5-ZjHNv8oo0D81gGT9oFC7KdXPtodOyoRZBvKA35-XjDWwHpjRHNs0rKDNfrtdvpPQ7oNVlxuM6qKVb66CM8BOPsv9naUlfBnimwz1bhdHg/s1600/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJJmCWNgVuXxnIs9EDeadysH7DkB25wSIC5-ZjHNv8oo0D81gGT9oFC7KdXPtodOyoRZBvKA35-XjDWwHpjRHNs0rKDNfrtdvpPQ7oNVlxuM6qKVb66CM8BOPsv9naUlfBnimwz1bhdHg/s320/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society we become are haunted by anxiety and stress of having to keep escaping our genuine feelings and of having to pretend to be happy all the time. we know this for ourselves because this is what we have become conditioned to have. We constantly don’t want to get into this too much.We learn to practice avoid-ant behaviours in collusion with our parents. And by escaping our innermost feelings, we create an inner void which is filled with either addictions or other people constantly manufacturing new dramas that we endlessly replicate.<br />We feel at the Stages that we have found the explanation for why we are suffering so much. Especially the topics we address about this inner “void” we constantly construct, how morality keeps you away from you genuine “negative” feelings against your parents, how these feelings will express themselves in either violence or illness or addictions.<br />We have never experienced genuine emotional communication in our upbringing or our lives, so we can never believe that other people would ever be interested in our emotions and interior life. Which causes us a lot of feelings of abandonment , loneliness and guilt. But only after we have re-learned to trust our feelings and started to share them, do we discover at the stages that there are people who do communicate in this way. This is very new to us, because all our lives we have only experienced communication based on our “masks”, our “façade”, our “false self” and we could only relate to other grandiose,masked people, because we didn't want to be abandoned by them. And we actually thought that this was really normal.<br />Our own parents are afflicted by;the deprivations of their bodies We as children of any age are forced to fill these deprivations of our parents, and in the process our child will have to sacrifice their own needs and feelings. And then the whole generational cycle starts all over again. We believe that the only way out of this, is to stop denying the feelings and emotions behind these feelings of emptiness and depression. And in the process to pay more attention to our child within the hidden self, to ourselves and our needs and strive to live in the fresh new world of the stages.</span>

To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society

To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society we become are haunted by anxiety and stress o...

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We are in a constant battle with our own mind

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJuPJ-TDPNyAuHFI4m87YyvnkHw6MUbDo9RpKLrA7yzeOAKMgKCi6tnlZHabaDe6Aj7GQdpUPKftzTmYwH_eW2ijPua3SCVDWILEK_wcd2YP3P7J9up6NPG_AhfgV4m31NFe0swRHjw2K9/s1600/The+TEN+STAGES+OF+RECOVERY.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="131" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJuPJ-TDPNyAuHFI4m87YyvnkHw6MUbDo9RpKLrA7yzeOAKMgKCi6tnlZHabaDe6Aj7GQdpUPKftzTmYwH_eW2ijPua3SCVDWILEK_wcd2YP3P7J9up6NPG_AhfgV4m31NFe0swRHjw2K9/s320/The+TEN+STAGES+OF+RECOVERY.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: #f2fbfd;"><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;">We are in a constant battle with our own mind to assure ourself that, yes, this is really us and our life. Even though everything we touch, hear, see and feel points to the absolute contrary. We just have to believe that this is our reality and this really and truly is our life. It is an unrelenting 24/7 battle  with our disassociation. 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Since you are awareness there is no need to attain or cultivate it</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stageforum.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-child-within-thats-is-interior.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/340768502_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stageforum.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-child-within-thats-is-interior.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The CHILD WITHIN thats is an interior voice accessing the exterior and is the only true voice of the child.The authentic intuition voice that lovingly guides your life.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://frasertrevor.blogspot.com/2015/05/when-we-have-find-child-within-ourselves.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/340330572_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://frasertrevor.blogspot.com/2015/05/when-we-have-find-child-within-ourselves.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">When we have find the child within ourselves</a></li> </ul> </div> </div>

We are in a constant battle with our own mind

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'DISSY' means feeling detached from yourself

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> 'DISSY' means feeling detached from yourself, observing yourself and your feelings and thoughts as if they belong to someone else you are watching in a movie. Some of the typical symptoms are:<br /> out-of-body experiences<br /> loss of feeling in parts of your body<br /> distorted views of your body<br /> unable to recognise your image in a mirror<br /> a sense of detachment from your emotions<br /> feeling like you are watching a movie of yourself<br /> feeling like you are unreal<br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJuPJ-TDPNyAuHFI4m87YyvnkHw6MUbDo9RpKLrA7yzeOAKMgKCi6tnlZHabaDe6Aj7GQdpUPKftzTmYwH_eW2ijPua3SCVDWILEK_wcd2YP3P7J9up6NPG_AhfgV4m31NFe0swRHjw2K9/s1600/The+TEN+STAGES+OF+RECOVERY.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="81" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJuPJ-TDPNyAuHFI4m87YyvnkHw6MUbDo9RpKLrA7yzeOAKMgKCi6tnlZHabaDe6Aj7GQdpUPKftzTmYwH_eW2ijPua3SCVDWILEK_wcd2YP3P7J9up6NPG_AhfgV4m31NFe0swRHjw2K9/s200/The+TEN+STAGES+OF+RECOVERY.png" width="200" /></a></div> 'DISSY' means seeing other people and the environment around you as dream-like and unreal. Objects may change in shape, size or colour. Typical symptoms are:<br /> feeling like a normal environment is unfamiliar<br /> a sense that what is happening is unreal<br /> feeling detached from the world<br /> a perception of objects changing shape, colour, size<br /> feeling that people you know are strangers<br /> <br /> Episodes of DISSY may last just a few moments and come and go over many years, or may be ongoing.<br /> <div> <br /></div> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stageforum.blogspot.com/2015/04/when-we-are-dissociatedescaping-we-are.html" style="border-radius: 2px; 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As we grow in The Stages, we leave others behind.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuYiGdgRd4C2chlhsYe0Z48pyZl4V3AZWzIBvNuO5JtBl8ZNvOxLWEpNyhztmec7WO7573ZMIMG9kGQ3G2lNDiWwtJnrFX1f_MTOy6TjahdWOzt7mq8Qh8B7By_bmwvRLV2Omzf-3xZO0/s1600/stage+barbed+wire.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuYiGdgRd4C2chlhsYe0Z48pyZl4V3AZWzIBvNuO5JtBl8ZNvOxLWEpNyhztmec7WO7573ZMIMG9kGQ3G2lNDiWwtJnrFX1f_MTOy6TjahdWOzt7mq8Qh8B7By_bmwvRLV2Omzf-3xZO0/s320/stage+barbed+wire.jpg" width="213" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #373737; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 24.375px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> As we grow in The Stages, we leave others behind.  We outgrow certain relationships and part company with those who cannot grow with us.  We seek students with whom we have an affinity—those who nurture our developing sense of self and our deepening wonder at life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #373737; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 24.375px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> As we wake up, we leave behind those invested in sleep.  As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions of consciousness are not welcome to those who remain in dissociated oblivion.<span id="more-172" style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></span>  Our very presence disturbs them and they retaliate by denigrating our awareness.  We must be very careful not to allow others’ deadened life force to numb our newly-won vitality.  We must guard our precious perceptions and not squander these treasures on those whose defences would undermine their meaning.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #373737; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 24.375px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Perhaps most difficult of all, we must leave the limits of our families—and particularly our parents.  We must part company with these primary figures who wield tremendous and often deadly power.  If we are not disciplined and committed to our departure, their censoring voices will crush our adult attempts to escape their orbit.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #373737; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 24.375px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Some leave their parents with direct confrontations, which may be necessary to break the poisonous cord of family connection.  Others may leave with quiet grace—such that the family may not even notice.  Perhaps we needn’t disturb their sleep.  We may even choose to maintain civil, but distant contact, as long as we are not pulled back into their world of wounding treachery and denial.  But this is risky because they will try to pull us back.  Yet no matter how we leave, withdraw we must, leaving behind the hope of their joining us and blessing us as we venture into the depths of our being.</div> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; 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As we grow in The Stages, we leave others behind.

As we grow in The Stages, we leave others behind.  We outgrow certain relationships and part company with those who cannot grow with us....

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For us in recovery the worst form of isolation and the deepest source of loneliness comes from being cut off from our own child within.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhSTtTJ6Bm4Fku1eikr1peMBiDRy8mQJ40Gx5iXNk158Smhl3pF_UMfMCQ0ByooQhWL3paxwS9wbzSZfD4jeMvPcrx5je04n_ORad9y8QgxFsCxRYRQSUpvQMabRAuuihTAb44tuQ7v1gJ/s1600/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhSTtTJ6Bm4Fku1eikr1peMBiDRy8mQJ40Gx5iXNk158Smhl3pF_UMfMCQ0ByooQhWL3paxwS9wbzSZfD4jeMvPcrx5je04n_ORad9y8QgxFsCxRYRQSUpvQMabRAuuihTAb44tuQ7v1gJ/s320/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" width="207" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px; margin-bottom: 6px;"> For us in recovery the worst form of isolation and the deepest source of loneliness comes from being cut off from our own child within. This occurs when we fail to make contact with our child—because it is buried under traumas that require too much painful effort to excavate. Instead of living with our authenticity shining through, we wear a mask as we interact in the world—even with our closest companions. We are there—but not present. We are dissociated due to trauma.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> Y<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">et in solitude, unlike isolation, we are never lonely, for we realise that we are not really alone: we are with our true selves. We are fully connected. This comforts our fears and quiets our loneliness.</span></div> <div class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #141823; display: inline; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 6px;"> Even as we approach the mystery of death and the unknown, we need not fear that we will be alone or abandoned, for we know we will be there taking the next leap into this final chapter of life with our best companion—ourselves and our inner connection with truth.</div> </div> </div>

For us in recovery the worst form of isolation and the deepest source of loneliness comes from being cut off from our own child within.

For us in recovery the worst form of isolation and the deepest source of loneliness comes from being cut off from our own child within. ...

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The child within is the fun, child within will prevail, the child is our healthy decoration, the child is our make-up, the child is our being,

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-AyYHC5hH8NE/VSo6v-iUFSI/AAAAAAAARao/pIAClYHMPS4/s1600/1-11050822_597090743761003_8908973908707265896_n-001.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="177" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-AyYHC5hH8NE/VSo6v-iUFSI/AAAAAAAARao/pIAClYHMPS4/s200/1-11050822_597090743761003_8908973908707265896_n-001.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Verdana, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17.9400005340576px;">As long as we are not in contact with our child within we are not going to be happy, we are not going to be, and we are not going to have fun. The child within is the fun, child within will prevail, the child is our healthy decoration, the child is our make-up, the child is our being, the child is our identity and our spiritual projection is our recovery power</span></div>

The child within is the fun, child within will prevail, the child is our healthy decoration, the child is our make-up, the child is our being,

As long as we are not in contact with our child within we are not going to be happy, we are not going to be, and we are not going to have...

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At The Stages we begin to realise as our child within awakes that disapproval has been used as a weapon against us in childhood and beyond.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBnIOdOJnFcPKRyCKjDdF08McOAXEnXh8n70pjCbG-cy-XOtiOCT12wIjay4a01d-bhnhctk95DTnwUdqyqdZLzP5G9BLJ3tQDwyJJkN9xiRdwElRS2mAsVdUfOnJ2951Ibk1rTCzRbQA/s1600/1-Believe+in.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="64" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBnIOdOJnFcPKRyCKjDdF08McOAXEnXh8n70pjCbG-cy-XOtiOCT12wIjay4a01d-bhnhctk95DTnwUdqyqdZLzP5G9BLJ3tQDwyJJkN9xiRdwElRS2mAsVdUfOnJ2951Ibk1rTCzRbQA/s200/1-Believe+in.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> At The Stages we begin to realise as our child within awakes that disapproval has been used as a weapon against us in childhood and beyond. If we've have developed a phobia of disapproval, then others will scare and therefore control us if we play their games. Seeing reality through a narrow and prejudiced lens of 'does this please or displease me?' makes others appear pretty tyrannical. Others who are quick to disapprove (even if they just imply disapproval) can make us on edge feel controlled or dominated.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> We need to start to focus on what we think and want. If someone seems to disapprove, call them out on it. Ask them what their problem is. As weird as it sounds, you have every right to disapprove of their disapproval!</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Ultimately, disapproval fails to deliver what it threatens. When the 'bomb drops', we learn there is no bomb. When we let people disapprove of us if they want and cease to worry, a whole new world of freedom and recovery opens before us.</div> </div>

At The Stages we begin to realise as our child within awakes that disapproval has been used as a weapon against us in childhood and beyond.

At The Stages we begin to realise as our child within awakes that disapproval has been used as a weapon against us in childhood and beyo...

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Anxiously seeking approval is an attempt at trying to gain and keep a further sense of control where their is none.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhM7qaiyTc4UZlTeuU3PyjPcFKV87KarinFcgCWMjoyZMq4B6E0N1qULlCVn3ioglMZiQurKO2kai9djLFRv2fk0xvl_2UwKLw0EaVp-lSYH_UDXSAYE0ELN1I-RflwzxOI-iax-P_JveM/s1600/10710919_10152757192388615_3531926343357915073_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhM7qaiyTc4UZlTeuU3PyjPcFKV87KarinFcgCWMjoyZMq4B6E0N1qULlCVn3ioglMZiQurKO2kai9djLFRv2fk0xvl_2UwKLw0EaVp-lSYH_UDXSAYE0ELN1I-RflwzxOI-iax-P_JveM/s200/10710919_10152757192388615_3531926343357915073_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Anxiously seeking approval is an attempt at trying to gain and keep a further sense of control where their is none.A struggle to gain self worth from another lies at the failed motivations of childhood. If we can just make our parent 'happy' by being what we imagine they want us to be, then we won't be rejected or abandoned. That's the self common assumption; but does it work?</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Well, parents like 'nice' children, for sure; but, paradoxically, trying to be all things to all can make us less appreciated, because others are generally drawn to an aura of self-confidence. So remind ourself regularly that we can influence other's perception of us some of the time, but we can't control it. Others are not a replication of parents and they tend to think what they'll think.</div> </div>

Anxiously seeking approval is an attempt at trying to gain and keep a further sense of control where their is none.

Anxiously seeking approval is an attempt at trying to gain and keep a further sense of control where their is none.A struggle to gain se...

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When the child within was banished from our consciousness we started constantly seeking approval

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #464646; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Gills Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 2em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> When the child within was banished from our consciousness we started constantly seeking approval which means we're perpetually worried that others are forming a bad opinion of us. We come to feel vulnerable and prey to whether other people are pleased with us or not. This steals the fun, creativity, and spontaneity from our life. When we attempt to communicate at depth with our child within we have to make a point of doing stuff now and then purely because we want to. 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When the child within was banished from our consciousness we started constantly seeking approval

When the child within was banished from our consciousness we started constantly seeking approval which means we're perpetually worried...

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