Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Addiction is the way of temporary forgetting and hence we begin to understand the repeated circles of addiction cycle. This becomes a part of the study course at The Ten Stages
Author: Fraser Trevor
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When we start to understand and experience at “traumatic reenactment”. The memories of the traumatic experiences are dissociated, nonverb...
Addiction is the way of temporary forgetting and hence we begin to understand the repeated circles of addiction cycle. This becomes a part of the study course at The Ten Stages
Addiction is the way of temporary forgetting and hence we begin to understand the repeated circles of addiction cycle. This becomes a part of the study course at The Ten Stages

When we start to understand and experience at “traumatic reenactment”. The memories of the traumatic experiences are dissociated, nonverb...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: The Truth of ourselves
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We stay in relationships because we are frightened of being alone… …yet never acknowledge this to our partners. We have children bec...
The Truth of ourselves
The Truth of ourselves

We stay in relationships because we are frightened of being alone… …yet never acknowledge this to our partners. We have children bec...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.
The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.
The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.

The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Ego always seeks death. Recovery always seeks life.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
The part of us that is traumatised will always seek death. It seeks to decrease the amount of joy we have in life. It will always insp...
Ego always seeks death. Recovery always seeks life.
Ego always seeks death. Recovery always seeks life.

The part of us that is traumatised will always seek death. It seeks to decrease the amount of joy we have in life. It will always insp...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: we will FEEL as if we are actually taking care of ourselves.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
When we make decisions to try to take perfect care of ourselves, we become lost,frozen because  at this stage our inner compass has beco...
we will FEEL as if we are actually taking care of ourselves.
we will FEEL as if we are actually taking care of ourselves.

When we make decisions to try to take perfect care of ourselves, we become lost,frozen because  at this stage our inner compass has beco...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process. As we progressively break from our family on the quest to become a true individual, ...
Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process.
Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process.

Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process. As we progressively break from our family on the quest to become a true individual, ...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Ten Stages of Mourning for Our Childhood
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
As we engage with the 10 Stage Study we uncover a need for a period of mourning, at first we feel a great freedom but after we enter into ...
Ten Stages of Mourning for Our Childhood
Ten Stages of Mourning for Our Childhood

As we engage with the 10 Stage Study we uncover a need for a period of mourning, at first we feel a great freedom but after we enter into ...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We strongly support experimentation.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We strongly support experimentation. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, We suggest consciously testing them for yourse...
We strongly support experimentation.
We strongly support experimentation.

We strongly support experimentation. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, We suggest consciously testing them for yourse...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a r...
Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice
Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice

Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a r...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward. To move forward is to heal. To heal is to become...
Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward.
Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward.

Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward. To move forward is to heal. To heal is to become...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: The Stages Safe Rooms recovery Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
The Stages Safe Rooms recovery  Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.
The Stages Safe Rooms recovery Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.
The Stages Safe Rooms recovery Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.

The Stages Safe Rooms recovery  Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, is about the same thing
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, are about the same thing: Emotions. We use drugs to esc...
All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, is about the same thing
All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, is about the same thing

All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, are about the same thing: Emotions. We use drugs to esc...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore useful or useless than any other living bei...
Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore
Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore

Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore useful or useless than any other living bei...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: www.facebook.com/thetenstages
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
www.facebook.com/thetenstages
www.facebook.com/thetenstages
www.facebook.com/thetenstages

www.facebook.com/thetenstages

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones, little acts of betrayal and hypocrisy forgotten (repressed) very qui...
We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones
We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones

We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones, little acts of betrayal and hypocrisy forgotten (repressed) very qui...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep. As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions...
As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep.
As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep.

As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep. As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity, a steady-state of pleasantness, an...
It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity
It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity

It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity, a steady-state of pleasantness, an...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style, and we start to see that everything that surrounds us...
As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style
As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style

As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style, and we start to see that everything that surrounds us...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply becomes another religion.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply become...
Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply becomes another religion.
Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply becomes another religion.

Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply become...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
There is no substitute for the resolution of trauma, and symptoms or addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute
Addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute
Addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute

There is no substitute for the resolution of trauma, and symptoms or addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood or in the womb, and we are reacting on a primal level to our mothers' emotio...
We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood
We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood

We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood or in the womb, and we are reacting on a primal level to our mothers' emotio...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.
Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.
Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.

Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn. And here is the hope, the simple hope for ...
 like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn.
like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn.

like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn. And here is the hope, the simple hope for ...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: It's never too late to try something new!
Author: Fraser Trevor
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It's never too late to try something new!
It's never too late to try something new!
It's never too late to try something new!

It's never too late to try something new!

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.
One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.
One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.

One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally if we want to heal from our childhood wounds.
We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally
We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally

We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally if we want to heal from our childhood wounds.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves and accurate empathy for the other per...
Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves
Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves

Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves and accurate empathy for the other per...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course. This is invaluable for them, because when the going gets u...
Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course.
Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course.

Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course. This is invaluable for them, because when the going gets u...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.
We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.
We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.

We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.
Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.
Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.

Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.
Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.
Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.

Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results. If we care enough, we'll get incredible results. That will compl...
If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results.
If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results.

If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results. If we care enough, we'll get incredible results. That will compl...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.
Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.
Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.

Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.
We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.
We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.

We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and honest with us.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and...
Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and honest with us.
Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and honest with us.

Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness. The choice to think, to be aware, to send the searchlight of consc...
The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness.
The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness.

The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness. The choice to think, to be aware, to send the searchlight of consc...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child has almost continually because of having to be around emotionally-dead adults...
Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child
Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child

Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child has almost continually because of having to be around emotionally-dead adults...

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Fraser Trevor Fraser Trevor Author
Title: Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid somehow depriving the child within of its emotional needs, and to deprive the child within of any of its emotional needs is to traumatize our child.
Author: Fraser Trevor
Rating 5 of 5 Des:
Emotional desolation a person experienced in childhood (and in which they remain). Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid someho...
Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid somehow depriving the child within of its emotional needs, and to deprive the child within of any of its emotional needs is to traumatize our child.
Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid somehow depriving the child within of its emotional needs, and to deprive the child within of any of its emotional needs is to traumatize our child.

Emotional desolation a person experienced in childhood (and in which they remain). Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid someho...

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