When we start to understand and experience at “traumatic reenactment”. The memories of the traumatic experiences are dissociated, nonverbal, and unintegrated. Over and over, people find themselves i…
We stay in relationships because we are frightened of being alone… …yet never acknowledge this to our partners. We have children because we don’t know what else to do with their lives… …yet are terri…
The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition. …
The part of us that is traumatised will always seek death. It seeks to decrease the amount of joy we have in life. It will always inspire behaviour that is self-destructive in one way or another. Pai…
When we make decisions to try to take perfect care of ourselves, we become lost,frozen because at this stage our inner compass has become damaged. Our decisions, to the degree that we are traumatis…
Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process. As we progressively break from our family on the quest to become a true individual, a part of ourself remains a clone of the family in attitude a…
As we engage with the 10 Stage Study we uncover a need for a period of mourning, at first we feel a great freedom but after we enter into the Ten Stages of Mourning for Our Childhood @ The Ten Stage…
We strongly support experimentation. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, We suggest consciously testing them for yourself. We have arrived at our point of view through testing — oft…
Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a rough road. The irony is that we presently have the option of …
Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward. To move forward is to heal. To heal is to become more independent. And to become more independent is to leave o…
The Stages Safe Rooms recovery Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety. …
All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, are about the same thing: Emotions. We use drugs to escape emotions, or to find a way to have emotions We see other peopl…
Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore useful or useless than any other living being on this great Earth. And once we truly understand this most…
We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones, little acts of betrayal and hypocrisy forgotten (repressed) very quickly. But the computer in our subconscious mind forgets nothin…
As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep. As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions of consciousness are not welcome to those who remain in disso…
It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity, a steady-state of pleasantness, an unperturbed demeanour, or whatever else helps provide a socially …
As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style, and we start to see that everything that surrounds us is inviting us to grow. …
Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply becomes another religion. …
There is no substitute for the resolution of trauma, and symptoms or addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute …
We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood or in the womb, and we are reacting on a primal level to our mothers' emotional pathology. Every foetus reacts to maternal emotional pathology…
Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves. …
like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn. And here is the hope, the simple hope for all of us: self-reflection. We can learn from our bad decision…
One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us. …
We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally if we want to heal from our childhood wounds. …
Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves and accurate empathy for the other person's capacity to be a mutual, compassionate, and a curious wi…
Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course. This is invaluable for them, because when the going gets ugly in the studies, as it invariably does if the process goes …
We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds. …
Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions. …
Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves. …
If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results. If we care enough, we'll get incredible results. That will completely change our lives …
Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages. …
We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter. …
Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and honest with us. …
The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness. The choice to think, to be aware, to send the searchlight of consciousness outward toward the world, and inward toward your own …
Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child has almost continually because of having to be around emotionally-dead adults for the duration of his/her childhood. …
Emotional desolation a person experienced in childhood (and in which they remain). Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid somehow depriving the child within of its emotional needs, and to de…
