When we start to understand and experience at “traumatic reenactment”. The memories of the traumatic experiences are dissociated, nonverb...
We stay in relationships because we are frightened of being alone… …yet never acknowledge this to our partners. We have children bec...
The mind is above time and space. If you decide to recover, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.
The part of us that is traumatised will always seek death. It seeks to decrease the amount of joy we have in life. It will always insp...
When we make decisions to try to take perfect care of ourselves, we become lost,frozen because at this stage our inner compass has beco...
Self-doubt is part of the ten stages healing process. As we progressively break from our family on the quest to become a true individual, ...
As we engage with the 10 Stage Study we uncover a need for a period of mourning, at first we feel a great freedom but after we enter into ...
We strongly support experimentation. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, We suggest consciously testing them for yourse...
Attempting the stages requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a r...
Moving forward is disturbing, and anyone who tells you otherwise is not moving forward. To move forward is to heal. To heal is to become...
The Stages Safe Rooms recovery Growth is humbling. Growth requires vulnerability,trust and safety.
All addiction, whether it's a substance addiction or a behavioural addiction, are about the same thing: Emotions. We use drugs to esc...
Through meditation we have to first discover that we are no one, nothing special, not anymore useful or useless than any other living bei...
We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones, little acts of betrayal and hypocrisy forgotten (repressed) very qui...
As we study the stages, we leave behind those invested in sleep. As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions...
It's not uncommon for emotional disconnection/disassociation to be overlaid by a false equanimity, a steady-state of pleasantness, an...
As we begin to love and respect ourselves we stop craving for a different life style, and we start to see that everything that surrounds us...
Without a consistent methodology of the stages for determining truth from falsehood, "self knowledge" simply become...
There is no substitute for the resolution of trauma, and symptoms or addiction replacement is nothing but a substitute
We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood or in the womb, and we are reacting on a primal level to our mothers' emotio...
Sometimes we simply need permission to be ourselves.
like all bad decisions we make, even our reenactments/dissociation offer us a chance to learn. And here is the hope, the simple hope for ...
One way to look at the stages process: taking care of ourselves better than our parents took care of us.
We must embark on our own healing process where we are our own best ally if we want to heal from our childhood wounds.
Vulnerability with others is an earned process that springs out of our relationship with ourselves and accurate empathy for the other per...
Students at the Stages who pay a fee make a sacrifice – and thus buy a course. This is invaluable for them, because when the going gets u...
We do not attempt to narcissistically gratify anyone else unless we are in denial of our own comparable wounds.
Self-knowledge is not a competition. For those to whom it is a competition, envy and self-doubt will be constant companions.
Connection with an another person is impossible if we aren't connected with ourselves.
If we start care at all about ourselves, we'll get some results. If we care enough, we'll get incredible results. That will compl...
Don't be a follower, become a student at the Stages.
We are not searching for the perfect partner. We're searching for the perfect babysitter.
Lesson One: We have found it is fundamentally impossible to pressure another person into being more authentic, connected, and...
The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness. The choice to think, to be aware, to send the searchlight of consc...
Zombies are a metaphor for the experience of dread a child has almost continually because of having to be around emotionally-dead adults...
Emotional desolation a person experienced in childhood (and in which they remain). Chances are we are not healthy enough to avoid someho...
