These Mindfulness tools are suggestions for enhancing our meditational experience.

These Mindfulness tools are suggestions for enhancing our meditational experience. They have worked for us and for many people we have witnessed, and they follow the pattern of self-love, self-respect, and self-exploration. We encourage you to use these tools in a way that feels comfortable to you—but not to overdo them. A gentle, gradual meditational process is often the one that works best. One general rule we have learned is this: Everyone’s meditation patterns are different, and must ultimately be guided by his or her own inner intuitive voice, motivation, and temperament.

Scripting. We learn about ourselves through keeping a script of our feelings, interactions, fantasies, and motivations. The study and interpretation of our reactions to daily living reveal much about the unresolved conflicts that still dominate our unconscious and affect our lives. This form of self-re flection shows how the choices we make during our day promote or inhibit our emotional wellbeing. We may also return again and again to our written record of our journey in order to optimise our understanding of our strengths, our weaknesses, our patterns, our successes, our failures, and the sweep of our progress.

Reflecting on Our Dreamtime. We catch flashes of our dreams throughout the night in order to decode their meanings. This takes us into the very depths of ourselves and reveals the continuing struggle in our unconscious between our true self and the historical voices of our traumatised past. The part of our psyche that creates our dreams is a child within genius, and we do ourselves a good turn by trying to comprehend what our Dream Genius is telling us. This process, like all of self-reflection, can be quite difficult, and at times even confusing or seemingly fruitless, but just the act of trying to uncover the depth of meaning of our dreamtime brings us closer to the truth of our child still hidden within.

Self-Reflecting. We can aid our healing wonderfully aided by any form of meditation, mindfulness, inner loving-kindfulness dialogue, or seeking that allows us to look
beneath our traumas and connect to the river of sub-conscious truth. The more we get to know ourselves—the bedrock of our true selves—the better our choices, the more self-loving our attitude, and the stronger our resolve to struggle forward. However, prayer and meditation are folly when they promote dissociation to other realms and worlds in order to avoid the reality of the pain buried in our unconscious. This is not self-reflective, but instead self-delusional and ultimately self-destructive.

Developing Friendships. We seek friendship with other evolving people who are committed to their own emotional healing. We take the risk of reaching out and making true connections. We strive for friendship based on equality, autonomy, and healthy boundaries—and we seek to avoid dependency and enmeshment, which are only replications of our awed childhood patterns. We recognise how hard it is go it alone, and we have found friendship to be a great benefit and a means to persevere on this journey to the child within.

Reading Healthy Literature. We seek out and read any honest writing in the world that helps us understand our unconscious motives, untangle the lies that chain us, and in a positive, non-dissociative way bring the truth of our core to light. Great writing, as rare or metaphorical as it might be, runs the thematic gamut, from psychology to religion to action to science, and when we discriminate carefully it affords us guidance and conceptual insight.

Taking Distance from our Family of Origin. In order to uncover and recover from the damage done to us in our childhoods it is often necessary to take distance, and sometimes great distance, from our childhood families—and primarily our parents. This allows us a better perspective to see what the ancestors really did to us, how we really behave without their in influence, and who we really are. Although this distance can at times be excruciatingly painful, this pain can also prove to be a window into our child within, and thus a great opportunity to grow. And the best of our parents, those parts of them that truly do love us, will understand. After all, we are nurturing their perfect creation the child hidden within.